Seven naslovi

on marriage--and are more than happy to give you their opinion of
how to form a more perfect union.
But that's the key word--opinion. Before the breakthroughs my
research provided, point of view was pretty much all that anyone
trying to help couples had to go on. And that includes just about
every qualified, talented, and well-trained marriage counselor out
there. Usually a responsible therapist's approach to helping couples is
based on his or her professional training and experience, intuition,
family history, perhaps even religious conviction. But the one thing
it's not based on is hard scientific evidence. Because until now there
really hasn't been any rigorous scientific data about why some
marriages succeed and others flop.
For all of the attention my ability to predict divorce has earned
me, the most rewarding findings to come out of my studies are the
Seven Principles that will prevent a marriage from breaking up.

Emotionally intelligent marriages

What can make a marriage work is surprisingly simple. Happily
married couples aren't smarter, richer, or more psychologically astute
than others. But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a
dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each
other (which all couples have) from overwhelming their positive
ones. They have what I call an emotionally intelligent marriage.

I can predict whether a couple will divorce after I can predict whether a couple will divorce after I can predict whether a couple will divorce after I can predict whether a couple will divorce after

watching andwatching andwatching andwatching and listening to them for just five minutes.listening to them for just five minutes.listening to them for just five minutes.listening to them for just five minutes.

Recently, emotional intelligence has become widely recognized
as an important predictor of a child's success later in life. The more in
touch with emotions and the better able a child is to understand and
get along with others, the sunnier that child's future, whatever his or
her academic IQ. The same is true for relationships between spouses.
The more emotionally intelligent a couple -- the better able they are to
understand, honor, and respect each other and their marriage -- the