whatever we’re experiencing is a powerful insight that can
motivate us to begin and continue our journey toward
understanding our own stories, the joys as well as the pain.
Then we can attune to the needs and signals of our children,
creating secure attachment and strong and healthy connection.
Research shows that even adults who experienced less-than-optimal childhoods can parent every bit as eʃectively, and
raise children who feel just as loved and securely attached, as
those whose home life was more consistent and loving. It’s
never too late to begin working on your coherent life
narrative, and as you do, your children will reap the rewards.
We want to make this point as clearly as possible: earlyexperience is not fate. By making sense of your past you can
free yourself from what might otherwise be a cross-
generational legacy of pain and insecure attachment, and
instead create an inheritance of nurturance and love for your
children.