This enables us to alter the energetic space we inhabit during our
interactions with others, which is the end of all drama. Seeing ourselves
as neither victims nor victors, martyrs nor mere survivors, we find we no
longer need drama in order to feel alive. If on occasion we are still
triggered, we are able to reel our reaction in before we cause hurt and
trauma for others.
Conversely, we are only able to feel positive regard for our children
when we already have such regard for ourselves. Only to the degree we
are confident within ourselves can we engage our children from a place
of confidence. This is because whatever we are experiencing internally is
ultimately manifested externally. That which is manifested externally
affects our children, which in turn affects us— and so the cycle
continues. Because at this deep level there is no separation and we are
one with our children, they become reflections of our interior being,
which is what makes them suited to be our spiritual guides.HEAVY-HANDED TACTICS BACKFIRE
Many parents believe that if they are scary, or even practice corporal
punishment, children will learn what they need to. Instead, our children
become fearful of us, which shuts them down to their natural desire to be
the good person they inherently are. If we want to discipline our children
meaningfully, we need to embrace our authority and be firm, while
simultaneously deepening our emotional connection with them. Fear
tactics only achieve an attenuated connection between our children and
ourselves.
If you are looking for simple “fixes” for your children’s behavior,