YOU CAN TRANSITION OUT OF EGO
I have found that it helps parents to differentiate between essence and ego
when I share with them examples of responses to their children that come
from ego, in contrast to responses that come from essence. It’s the
difference between coming from thought, or from our heart—from the
way we imagine things ought to be, or from acceptance of what is.
Examples of egoic reactions that emerge from fixation on the outcome
of a situation, perfection, zip codes, bank balances, appearance, wealth,
or success are:
Sermons: “If I were you...” Opinions: “If you ask me...”
Judgments: “I like...,” or, “I don’t like...”
Orders: “Don’t be sad,” “Don’t cry,” “Don’t be afraid”
Control: “If you do this, I will do that,” or, “I won’t accept you like
that.”Examples of responses that flow from essence, which is our authentic
being, include:“I see you,” embracing the individual as they are
“I understand you,” accepting the person as they are “I hear you,”
respecting the person as they are
“You are complete just as you are,” honoring the wholeness within
each of us
“This moment between us is perfect as it is,” realizing the