Parenting With Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

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Allowances/Money


There comes a time in the life of every child when financial


responsibility pokes its foreboding snout through the tent flap of his or
her world. We call it an allowance. It usually begins when a child is five
or six years old.
We give children allowances because we want to teach them money
management. Kids who have to struggle with money become not only
more fiscally responsible but also more responsible in all areas of life.
Several helpful rules on allowances will help our kids make the most
of this terrific learning experience:


Rule    One:    Children    do  not earn    their   allowances. That    means   we
do not pay them to do their chores. Being paid for chores robs them
of the dignity of holding up their fair share of the family workload.
The only time we’d pay them for chores is when they do our chores.
Rule Two: Provide the allowance at the same time every week.
This can be done with pay envelopes. Place the cash, plus a small
invoice indicating the breakdown of the funds (for example, for a
child in first grade, “$1 allowance, $6 lunch money”) inside an
envelope with the child’s name on it. Sign the invoice, “Because we
love you. Spend it wisely and make it last.” The child must then tend
to the envelope.
Rule Three: Never insist that children save the allowance. They
can’t learn to handle money if they stash their allowance in a shoe
box at the back of their closet, saving it for when they get big. Kids
must go through their own economic depression — wasting money
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