you understand how that process relates to you, your history with
your mother, and your current life. We will start with basic issues
like the importance of making emotional connections and proceed
to leaving your mother and cleaving to your spouse.
Our third assumption is that you need love and limits along
each step. Your mother needed to be loving so that you learned to
bond with others, and your mother needed to set limits so that you
learned to shoulder your own responsibilities. If your mother
neglected to provide love and limits, or if she provided one but not
the other, you will need to find a way of completing what is miss-
ing.
So, join us on the wonderful, difficult, and challenging process
of dealing with mom and mothering.
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