Ego was about being conceited and
braggy and all, “I’m gonna talk on and
on and on about how great I am and then
I’m gonna show you my muscles.”
Meanwhile, even though arrogance and
conceit (which are different from self-
love and confidence, BTW) are part of
the Ego, they’re not, as I later learned,
the whole dealio.
In the self-help/spiritual community,
“Ego” is used to refer to the shadow
self, or the false self, or the self that’s
acting like a weenie. It’s the part of us
that’s driving the bus when we do things
like sabotage our happiness by cheating
on our husbands or wives because deep
down we don’t feel worthy of being