When we agree to let ourselves down
in favor of supporting the bad behavior
of others, it often stems from the same
impulse: We’re unwilling to make other
people more uncomfortable than they
just made us. Not terribly studly in the
old self-love department, is it? By
making them uncomfortable I mean
declining to participate in their drama,
by the way, not by being equally abusive
back. This isn’t about getting an eye for
an eye and sinking to a lower level, it’s
about standing up for your highest self no
matter if the person you’re dealing with
should choose to have the experience of:
- Feeling disappointed