even the possibility or the thought that he or she might no
longerbetherefor youcanleadtojealousy,possessiveness,
attempts at manipulation through emotional blackmail,
blamingandaccusing—fearofloss.Iftheotherpersondoes
leaveyou, this cangive risetothe most intense hostilityor
the most profound grief and despair. In an instant, loving
tenderness can turn into a savage attack or dreadful grief.
Whereisthelovenow?Canlovechangeintoitsoppositein
aninstant?Wasit loveinthefirstplace,orjustanaddictive
graspingandclinging?
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Whyshouldwebecomeaddictedtoanotherperson?
The reason why the romantic love relationship is such an
intense and universally sought-after experience is that it
seems to offer liberation from a deep-seated state of fear,
need, lack, and incompleteness that is part of the human
conditioninitsunredeemedandunenlightenedstate.Thereis
aphysicalaswellasapsychologicaldimensiontothisstate.
Onthephysicallevel,youareobviouslynotwhole,nor
willyoueverbe:Youareeitheramanorawoman,whichis
to say, one-half of the whole. On thislevel,thelonging for
wholeness — the return to oneness — manifests as male-
femaleattraction,man'sneedforawoman,woman'sneedfor
a man. It is an almost irresistible urge for union with the
opposite energy polarity. The root of thisphysical urgeisa
spiritualone:thelongingforanendtoduality,areturntothe
stateofwholeness.Sexualunionistheclosestyoucangetto
this state on the physical level. This is why it is the most
deeply satisfying experience the physical realm can offer.