yourself and love yourself before you can have a fulfilling
relationshipwithanotherperson?
If you cannot be at ease with yourself when you are alone,
you will seek a relationship to cover up your unease. You
canbesurethattheunease will thenreappearinsome other
formwithintherelationship,andyouwillprobablyholdyour
partnerresponsibleforit.
All you really need to do is accept this moment fully.
You are then at ease in the here and now and at ease with
yourself.
Butdoyouneedtohavea relationshipwithyourselfat
all? Why can't you just be yourself? When you have a
relationshipwithyourself, youhavesplit yourself intotwo:
"I" and "myself," subject and object. That mind-created
dualityistherootcauseofallunnecessarycomplexity,ofall
problems and conflict in your life. In the state of
enlightenment, you are yourself — "you" and "yourself"
merge into one. You do not judge yourself, youdo not feel
sorryforyourself,youarenot proudofyourself, you donot
love yourself,youdo nothateyourself, andsoon.Thesplit
caused by self-reflective consciousness is healed, its curse
removed.Thereisno"self"thatyouneedtoprotect,defend,
or feed anymore. When you are enlightened, there is one
relationship that you no longer have: the relationship with
yourself. Once you have given that up, all your other
relationshipswillbeloverelationships.