requiredmoretimeandenergy.Topickuptheslackshebegantodoevenmoretomanagetheirpersonal
lifeandrelationship.Asshegavemore,shefeltasifshewasscoringaboutsixtypointsamonthtohisone.
Thismadeherveryunhappyandresentful.
Pamfeltshewasgivingmuchmoreandgettingless.FromChuck'spointofviewhewasnowgivingmore
(sixtypoints)andshouldgetmorefromhiswife.Inhismindthescorewaseven.Hewassatisfiedwith
theirrelationshipexceptforonething--shewasn'thappy.Heblamedherforwantingtoomuch.Tohim,his
increasedpayequaledwhatshewasgiving.ThisattitudemadePamevenmoreangry.
Afterlisteningtomyrelationshipcourseontape,bothpamandChuckwereabletoletgooftheirblame
andsolvetheirproblemwithlove.Arelationshipheadedfordivorcewastransformed.
Chucklearnedthatdoinglittlethingsforhiswifemadeabigdifference.Hewasamazedathowquickly
thingschangedwhenhestarteddevotingmoretimeandenergytoher.Hebegantoappreciatethatfora
womanlittlethingsarejustasimportantasbigthings.Henowunderstoodwhyhisworkscoredonlyone
point.
Actually, Pam had goodreasonto beunhappy.Shetruly neededChuck's personalenergy,effort,and
attentionmuchmorethantheirwealthylife-style.Chuckdiscoveredthatbyspendinglessenergymaking
moneyanddevotingjustalittlemoreenergyintherightdirection.hiswifewouldbemuchhappier.He
recognizedthathehadbeenworkinglongerhoursinhopesofmakingherhappier.Onceheunderstood
howshekeptscore,hecouldcomehomewithanewconfidencebecauseheknewhowtomakeherhappy.
LITTLETHINGSMAKEABIGDIFFERENCE....................................................................................
Thereareavarietyofwaysamancanscorepointswithhispartnerwithouthavingtodomuch.Itisjusta
matterofredirectingtheenergyandattentionheisalreadygiving.Mostmenalreadyknowaboutmanyof
thesethingsbutdon'tbothertodothembecausetheydon'trealizehowimportantthelittlethingsaretoa
woman.Amantrulybelievesthelittlethingsareinsignificantwhencomparedtothebigthingsheisdoing
forher.
Somemenmaystartoutinarelationshipdoingthelittlethings,buthavingdonethemonceortwicethey
stop.Throughsomemysteriousinstinctiveforce,theybegintofocustheirenergiesintodoingonebigthing
for theirpartners. They thenneglectto doallthelittlethings thatarenecessary for awomantofeel
fulfilledintherelationship.Tofulfillawoman,amanneedstounderstandwhatsheneedstofeelloved
andsupported.
Thewaywomenscorepointsisnotjustapreferencebutatrueneed.Womenneedmanyexpressionsof
loveinarelationshiptofeelloved.Oneortwoexpressionsoflove,nomatterhowimportant,willnot,and
cannot,fulfillher.