Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

(Tina Meador) #1

requiredmoretimeandenergy.Topickuptheslackshebegantodoevenmoretomanagetheirpersonal
lifeandrelationship.Asshegavemore,shefeltasifshewasscoringaboutsixtypointsamonthtohisone.
Thismadeherveryunhappyandresentful.


Pamfeltshewasgivingmuchmoreandgettingless.FromChuck'spointofviewhewasnowgivingmore
(sixtypoints)andshouldgetmorefromhiswife.Inhismindthescorewaseven.Hewassatisfiedwith
theirrelationshipexceptforonething--shewasn'thappy.Heblamedherforwantingtoomuch.Tohim,his
increasedpayequaledwhatshewasgiving.ThisattitudemadePamevenmoreangry.


Afterlisteningtomyrelationshipcourseontape,bothpamandChuckwereabletoletgooftheirblame
andsolvetheirproblemwithlove.Arelationshipheadedfordivorcewastransformed.


Chucklearnedthatdoinglittlethingsforhiswifemadeabigdifference.Hewasamazedathowquickly
thingschangedwhenhestarteddevotingmoretimeandenergytoher.Hebegantoappreciatethatfora
womanlittlethingsarejustasimportantasbigthings.Henowunderstoodwhyhisworkscoredonlyone
point.


Actually, Pam had goodreasonto beunhappy.Shetruly neededChuck's personalenergy,effort,and
attentionmuchmorethantheirwealthylife-style.Chuckdiscoveredthatbyspendinglessenergymaking
moneyanddevotingjustalittlemoreenergyintherightdirection.hiswifewouldbemuchhappier.He
recognizedthathehadbeenworkinglongerhoursinhopesofmakingherhappier.Onceheunderstood
howshekeptscore,hecouldcomehomewithanewconfidencebecauseheknewhowtomakeherhappy.


LITTLETHINGSMAKEABIGDIFFERENCE....................................................................................


Thereareavarietyofwaysamancanscorepointswithhispartnerwithouthavingtodomuch.Itisjusta
matterofredirectingtheenergyandattentionheisalreadygiving.Mostmenalreadyknowaboutmanyof
thesethingsbutdon'tbothertodothembecausetheydon'trealizehowimportantthelittlethingsaretoa
woman.Amantrulybelievesthelittlethingsareinsignificantwhencomparedtothebigthingsheisdoing
forher.


Somemenmaystartoutinarelationshipdoingthelittlethings,buthavingdonethemonceortwicethey
stop.Throughsomemysteriousinstinctiveforce,theybegintofocustheirenergiesintodoingonebigthing
for theirpartners. They thenneglectto doallthelittlethings thatarenecessary for awomantofeel
fulfilledintherelationship.Tofulfillawoman,amanneedstounderstandwhatsheneedstofeelloved
andsupported.


Thewaywomenscorepointsisnotjustapreferencebutatrueneed.Womenneedmanyexpressionsof
loveinarelationshiptofeelloved.Oneortwoexpressionsoflove,nomatterhowimportant,willnot,and
cannot,fulfillher.

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