blessingformen.Mostmenstriveforgreaterandgreatersuccessbecausetheybelieveitwillmakethem
worthyoflove.Deepinside,theycraveloveandadmirationfromothers.Theydonotknowthattheycan
drawthatloveandadmirationtothemwithouthavingtobeagreatersuccess.
Awomanhastheabilitytohealamanofthisaddictiontosuccessbyappreciatingthelittlethingshedoes.
Butshemaynotexpressappreciationifshedoesn'tunderstandhowimportantitistoaman.Shemaylet
herresentmentgetintheway.
HEALINGTHERESENTMENTFLU.................................................................................................
Womeninstinctivelyappreciatethelittlethings.Theonlyexceptionsarewhenawomandoesn'trealizea
manneedstohearherappreciationorwhenshefeelsthescoreisuneven.Whenawomanfeelsunloved
andneglecteditishardforherautomaticallytoappreciatewhatamandoesdoforher.Shefeelsresentful
becauseshehasgivensomuchmorethanhehas.Thisresentmentblocksherabilitytoappreciatethelittle
things.
Resentment,likegettingthefluoracold,isnothealthy.Whenawomanissickwithresentmentshetends
tonegatewhatamanhasdoneforherbecause,accordingtothewayawomankeepsscore,shehasdone
somuchmore.
Whenthescoreisforty toteninfavorofthewoman, shemaybegintofeelvery resentful.Something
happens to awoman when shefeelsshe is givingmore than she is getting. Quite unconsciously she
subtractshisscoreoftenfromherscoreoffortyandconcludesthescoreintheirrelationshipisthirtyto
zero.Thismakessensemathematicallyandisunderstandable,butitdoesn'twork.
Whenshesubtractshisscorefrom herscoreheendsupwithazero,andheisnotazero. Hehasnot
givenzero;hehasgiventen.Whenhecomeshomeshehasacoldnessinhereyesorinhervoicethat
saysheisazero.Sheisnegatingwhathehasdone.Shereactstohimasifhehasgivennothing_buthe
hasgiventen.
Thereasonawomantendstoreduceaman'spointsthiswayisbecauseshefeelsunloved.Theunequal
score makes her feel unloved, she finds it very difficult to appreciate even the ten points he can
legitimatelyclaim.Ofcourse,thisisn'tfair,butitishowitworks.
What generally happens in a relationship at this point is the man feels unappreciated and loses his
motivationtodomore.Hecatchestheresentmentflu.Shethencontinuestofeelmoreresentful,andthe
situationgetsworseandworse.Herresentmentflugetsworse.