Many womeninstinctively understand how to give thismessage. In thebeginning ofa relationship, a
womangivesamanabrieflookthatsaysyoucouldbetheonetomakemehappy.Inthissubtlewayshe
actuallyinitiatestheirrelationship.Thislookencourageshimtocomecloser.Itempowershimtoovercome
hisfearsofhavingarelationship.Unfortunately,oncetheyareinarelationshipandastheproblemsbegin
toemerge,shedoesn'tknowhowimportantthatmessagestillistohimandneglectstosendit.
TheMartianswereverymotivatedbythepossibilityofmakingadifferenceonVenus.TheMartianracewas
moving to a new level of evolution. They were no longer satisfied by just proving themselves and
developingtheirpower.Theywantedtousetheirpowerandskillsintheserviceofothers,especiallyinthe
serviceoftheVenusians.Theywerebeginningtodevelopanewphilosophy,awin/winphilosophy.They
wantedaworldwhereeveryonecaredforthemselvesaswellasforothers.
Love Motivates Martians
The Martiansbegan buildingafleetofspaceships thatwouldcarrythemacrosstheheavenstoVenus.
They had neverfeltsoalive. Through glimpsing theVenusians, theywerebeginningtohave unselfish
feelingsforthefirsttimeintheirhistory.
Similarly,whenamanisinloveheismotivatedtobethebesthecanbeinordertoserveothers.Whenhis
heartisopen, hefeelssoconfidentinhimselfthatheis capableofmakingmajor changes.Given the
opportunitytoprovehispotential,heexpresseshisbestself.Onlywhenhefeelshecannotsucceeddoes
heregressbacktohisoldselfishways.
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ifitwerehisown.Hecaneasilyendureanyhardshiptomakeherhappybecauseherhappinessmakeshim
happy.Hisstrugglesbecomeeasier.Heisenergizedwithahigherpurpose.
Inhisyouthhecanbesatisfiedbyservinghimselfalone,butashematuresself-gratificationisnolonger
assatisfying.Toexperiencefulfillmenthemustbegintolivehislifemotivatedbylove.Beinginspiredto
giveinsuchafreeandselflesswayliberateshimfromtheinertiaofself--gratificationdevoidofcaringfor
others.Althoughhestillneedstoreceivelove,hisgreatestneedistogivelove.
Mostmenarenotonlyhungrytogivelovebutarestarvingforit.Theirbiggestproblemisthattheydonot
knowwhattheyaremissing.Theyrarelysawtheirfatherssucceedinfulfillingtheirmothersthroughgiving.
Asaresulttheydonotknowthatamajorsourceoffulfillmentforamancancomethroughgiving.When
hisrelationshipsfailhefindshimselfdepressedandstuckinhiscave.Hestopscaringanddoesn'tknow
whyheissodepressed.