grounds of his romantic feeling for another human being, the questions to ask and answer are:
What does this relationship make me feel about myself? What is the distinctive nature of the self-experience it
produces in me? And why? What attitudes, characteristics, and actions of the person I love are essential in giving
me this experience?
The answers to these questions will tell a person a great deal, not only about the nature of his romantic feeling, but
also about the nature of his self-esteem and about his deepest image of himself.