Attract And Seduce

Key #3: Active Disinterest

Have you ever had someone tell you that the best way to pick up a
woman is to be an asshole? Or that women like bad boys? Or that good
guys finish last? Have you ever thought about why being "bad" might be
attractive?

It's a pretty simple psychological trigger. People – women and men –
want what they can't have. It's the scarcity and it's the challenge. It's the
hope that there is more than meets the eye. Seduction isn’t about being a
jerk. Jerks are not attractive; their attitudes create permanent emotional
barriers

On the other hand, the nice guy puts up no barriers. There’s no
challenge and he comes off as needy, and that’s equally unattractive.

You’re looking for the middle ground. You can’t create a permanent
barrier by being mean and offensive, but there has to be some tension to
create attraction. This middle ground is found by studying active
disinterest.

How does it work? It's about learning how to create temporary
barrier that together you can overcome together.

Everyone wants the things that are just out of reach, and seduction is
based on desires that spring from unfulfilled longings, insecurities and
dreams. In order for you to want something, something else has to be
missing. This is true whether you know about seduction or not. We’re all
looking for the missing half of our broken-heart necklace, in one form or
another.

 I want the car because it will make me feel powerful.
 I want a boyfriend so I won't feel alone.