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I showed up to the venue with a few friends. The bar was packed full
of attractive women, and men (who I could only assume) weren’t very
skilled at seduction. I had the upper hand.
I took my time with approaches and focused on keeping my friends
entertained. I bought the birthday boy a drink and shared stories while I
took note of the interesting people in the bar.
That’s when I saw her.She was surrounded by five guys. The guys all seemed to be drunk. I
walked over and opened one of the drunk guys by asking if he’d seen the
game earlier. He started telling me a story about how he and his four
buddies had not only seen the game – they’d been at the game.
“Oh that’s awesome! I wish I could have been there! I’m jealous,” I
said. “So how do you all know each other?”
I find out that the lady I’m interested in is on a date with Alex, one of
the buddies. Their body language tells me that it’s a first date, or at least,
that they aren’t very comfortable with each other yet physically.
Conversation with her friends continues, and naturally, she joins. She
tells me that she recently moved to the Bay Area from New York.
I start telling an identity story about the Bay Area to the group.
Surprisingly, I’m able to hold all of their attention – large groups can be
tough. We all talk and joke around for a while and I can sense that the
woman I’m interested in is getting drawn into me. There are signs that
she wants to talk to me, but she’s shy.