Why It Works: Because most men are excited to be touched and
you're stopping it, so you're the exception to the rule. It also works
because it flips the script, turning her into the one hitting on you and
makes her the one trying to earn your favor.
One more example: When she makes you laugh, you say "Don't get
your hopes up. I'm not easy." This sentence has not only a strong frame
in which she is portrayed as hitting on you, but again telling her that you
are not (yet) interested.
Key rules for Active Disinterest, disqualification and flirting:- There’s No One Emotion Involved: Many seduction coaches
claim that active disinterest must be playful. I find this to be
incredibly limiting. Every emotion and perspective a seducer has
should be in his tool belt. Active disinterest could be a bunch of
silly remarks or a serious disqualification. What matter is that the
technique follows the principle, and it serves to create the
intended effect: a temporary barrier that causes an emotional
spike. If you insult them the barrier will likely be permanent. If
the tease is too light it won’t have any emotional effect. In either
case it was done wrong. Find the middle ground, explore your
emotions and experiences until you do. - It's Interactive: It isn't a monologue, it's a dialogue. You need to
draw her out of her shell and get her involved in the conversation.
The more involved she is in the banter, the more she's going to get
emotionally-invested in you. - She Must Care: If you want your active disinterest to have an
emotional effect, then the other person must care about the person
showing the active disinterest. For this reason, you should only
start your active disinterest once you’re sure the group is