We are attracted to people with different interests because
in some way they make us feel whole; they balance out our
lives. By means of their different interests, they express some
aspect of themselves that we have not yet developed within
ourselves. Over time, as our love unites us, we begin to share
more and more interests. Their presence stimulates our growth
and keeps us more interested in all the different aspects of
living.
SOUL MATES HARMONIZE THEIR DIFFERENCES
It is very important not to expect our partners to resonate so
much with our values that they think and feel the way we do.
We must be careful not to conclude that resonating values
means having the same interests or even the same needs.
As we have already explored, soul mates have different in-
terests and they have different emotional needs as well. Reson-
ance of values creates a basis from which we can work through
our differences and find fair compromises. Resonance helps
soul mates harmonize their differences.
Resonance of values creates a basis
from which we can work through our
differences and find fair compromises.Resonance helps us to understand and support our partner’s
point of view or needs, even when our perspective is different.
Although it is sometimes difficult to find a win-win solution,
with good communication, love, and shared values, it is pos-
sible.
While our differences are definitely inconvenient, they
stretch us to be more whole, loving, and considerate. We are
attracted to someone who is different in order to satisfy the
360 / JOHN GRAY, PH.D.