She hopes that her love will change him. It is not fair to her
or him if she gives of herself now, and then expects more
from him later. This tendency will backfire.- She doesn’t feel respected by a man, but she is understanding
of why he can’t do the right things. When he is disrespectful,
he will justify it by either blaming his past or her. - She feels sexual chemistry, but she clearly doesn’t trust that
she will ever get her other needs satisfied.
By not understanding the signs of unhealthy chemistry, we
can easily make the mistake of getting involved with someone
who is clearly not right for us.
IT IS NORMAL TO MAKE MISTAKES
It is normal to make mistakes in finding the right person for
you. The difference between success and failure is being able
to learn from our mistakes to become more discerning. If you
want to hit a home run, the chances of striking out go up dra-
matically. Babe Ruth, who held the record for the most home
runs, also held the record for the most strikeouts.
If you want your relationship to be more than what previous
generations have experienced, then new skills must be learned.
If you want to run fast, then your chances of falling also in-
crease. The secret of success is to get up and keep going. You
can do it. Once it happens, you will look back and realize that
it happened at the right time for you.
To find a soul mate, not just a secure partner, takes new in-
sight, education, and lots of practice. With this kind of support,
you can develop your ability to navigate through the five stages
of dating to experience true and lasting love.
AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER / 369