charming, and successful, and he wants to get married. There
have been some special ones, but he was never able to settle
down. There was always something missing. This is how he
describes these special women:
Sarah was wonderful; she was bubbly and energetic,
everything that I am not. I like how I feel around her. We
almost got married, but she didn’t want to move and I
didn’t want to move.
Carol always loved me just the way I was. She loved
being with me and we had a great time together. She was
really so wonderful, I really couldn’t ask for more, except
that she wasn’t bubbly and energetic like Sarah.
Mary was the most beautiful woman I have ever met.
She was smart and successful, and I always felt proud
when I was with her in public. I thought about marrying
her, but she wasn’t as accepting as Carol was. Carol liked
everything about me. With Mary I felt I had to stay on my
toes. I liked that feeling, but I don’t think I could live my
life like that.
Richard could go on for hours and hours comparing women.
The bottom line was that he was expecting one woman to have
it all. The more he experienced women, the more good qualities
he wanted in his soul mate. Richard was always comparing
because he was looking for perfection. He wanted all he could
get.
THE IMPORTANCE OF EXCLUSIVITY
Besides not knowing that a soul mate is not perfect, the main
reason Richard would get caught up in his head was that he
was never just seeing one woman at a time. He was never in
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