Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

Model Marriage

God is better at taking care of us. He is more capable of handling complex issues for us.
Many issues cannot be solved by explaining and prosecuting a matter. Many issues are better left
to God by prayer and faith, knowing that He can “perfect all that concerneth you”. Marital
conflicts will be endless and probably just end in divorce unless you trust God to take care of
various situations. In the process of time, some issues get resolved. At other times, God can use
natural things (nature, the elements, etc.) to minister to your spouse and bring about a change.

Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.

Psalm 37:5

4. Accept that it Is the Wisdom of God to Choose the Path of Peace.

In marriage, there are always moments of unhappiness about one issue or other but we must
accept that it is the wisdom of God to choose the path of peace rather than to quarrel.^5

Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his

lips is esteemed a man of understanding.

Proverbs 17:28

Accept to be a peacemaker and not a cantankerous and ill-natured person.

Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.

Matthew 5:9

“Where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work”, but a home full of love
and peace will produce a healthy marriage and a good environment for children to grow in.

But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not

against the truth. This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly,

sensual, devilish. For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every

evil work. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle,

and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and

without hypocrisy. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that

make peace.

James 3:14-18

5. Accept that the Word of God is Greater than Your Emotions or
   Personal Ideas.

A lasting, joyful Christian marriage can only be achieved if it is based on the Word of God.
Allow the Word of God to rule in your life. Without the Word of God many issues will never die.
Decide to obey the Word no matter how you feel or what you think. Do not be moved by what
you feel but be moved, directed, motivated and constrained by the Word of Almighty God!!!

6. Develop a Flow in Spite of the Provocation.^6