Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

Dutiful Sex

The Woman

1. Things not to do

Do not complain, or murmur or pass sarcastic, sharp and cutting remarks like: “Don’t you get
satisfied when you eat?”

Do all things without murmurings and disputings.

Philippians 2:14

Remember: You are giving your body to your husband––your breasts, your vagina etc., which
is your spiritual duty as a wife.

The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband...

1Corinthians 7:4

2. Things to do

It is important to establish here that without an erection, a man cannot have sex. A wife who
wants to have sex has to be creative, to arouse her husband who is not in the mood for it. The
wife should help him have an erection by doing the following:

(a) Willingly and pleasantly take off your dress and lie down.

(b) Smile and be happy because you’re accomplishing your God-given duty.^2

(c) Play an active role––get involved by kissing, fondling, moving, and raising of

legs.

(d) AVOID “CADAVERIC” SEX. (A cadaver is a dead body. Sexual intercourse in

which one partner is as stiff and still as a dead body is “cadaveric” sex!)

(e) Lubricants may be used.

(f) Spontaneous lovemaking is easier if you wear the right clothes. Wear exciting

nighties.

(g) Various forms of undressing can powerfully turn on your husband.

i. Just underwear.

ii. Just a skirt, no blouse or bra.

iii. No underwear.

iv. Total nakedness.

v. Showing the vulva (private part). Practise the lithotomy position

(see Fig. 9 pg. 114)

(h) Undress him gradually, then physically stimulate his penis (especially the tip) with

your fingers by rubbing or stroking up and down. A little KY gel used around the

tip of the penis will help to avoid friction. Patiently stay with the things you know

turn him on; you will get an arousal from him! Learn to sleep without panties.

You will be easily available.