Chapter 35
Common Fears About Sex
Fears of a Virgin
A woman who has never had sex is usually apprehensive about her first sexual experience.
Her fear is that the sex act will be very painful and will be accompanied by a lot of bleeding. She
also wonders whether she would be able to endure the entire process. Other women’s
exaggerated accounts about their first experiences can make her very scared.
The virgin should encourage herself that if others have been through it and survived, she can
also make it.
Virginity
What to Do to Overcome Your Fears Before the Wedding- Psychological preparation: Get yourself psychologically prepared for being
naked, having sex, going through the initial pain. (See Figures 9 and 10 on pages
114-115). Study the anatomy of the female external genitalia, (Refer to Fig. 9
on page 115). - The bride should locate, on her own body, her vagina, and try to gently insert her
finger. This will help her distinguish between the 3 different outlets––vagina,
urethra and anus. - Trim your pubic hair.
(See Chapter 29 on “What to Do on the Wedding Night”)