The Temperaments and Sex- If not spirit-filled, the choleric wife may emasculate her husband by dominating
and leading him in everything, including sex. - If she isn’t interested in sex herself, she and her usually phlegmatic husband may
go for long periods without sex. - The choleric wife must not interpret a phlegmatic husband’s passivity about sex
to mean he enjoys abstinence. In the end, an explosion will occur that will have
a very serious and undesirable effect on the marriage.
The Melancholic Husband and Sex
- Is a supreme idealist.^5
- Usually goes into marriage without sex education because he believes the ideal
will happen. - If his wife is amorous, exciting and very expressive, things may work out fine.
- If he marries someone as naïve as he is, he and his wife may return from the
honeymoon depressed. - A shaky sex life can make a melancholic husband very unhappy and depressed.
This depression will turn his wife off. - Melancholics usually find it difficult to seek counselling and wait until their
marriage is almost breaking to get help. - The melancholic husband is able to express true love more than any other
temperament. - He is usually a loyal and faithful partner unless he indulges in impure thoughts
that lead to promiscuity. - When the melancholic loves his wife he will almost overextend himself in
thoughtfulness, kindness and emotion. - He is usually very romantic. He does the things that delight the romantic heart of
a woman like playing soft music, dimming lights, using perfume, etc. - His analytical nature makes him learn quickly what pleases his wife and then he
enjoys bringing her fulfilment. - If everything goes well for them they make great lovers. But since life does not
turn out perfectly and the melancholic is such a perfectionist, he may almost
refuse to accept anything less than perfection. - Little things like dirty dishes in the sink, or a messy floor can turn a melancholic
off sexually. - He is likely to interpret, as rejection, his wife’s lack of immediate response to sex
when he initiates lovemaking. If his wife tries to play a little hard-to-get-sex he
is likely to think she does not desire him and may give up before she can reveal
her true feelings.