Model Marriage
Each appreciates what the other likes, and sex is better. The familiarity of the long-term
relationship may result in greater intimacy and less inhibition when experimenting with
lovemaking techniques. On the other hand, familiarity may lead to boredom. It is essential that
the couple work at creating a sense of newness by looking for ways and opportunities to enhance
their sexual experience together. A trip away from home and the children is often stimulating.
Sex in the 50’s
A lot of men are anxious about their sexual life when approaching their 50’s, fearing that sex
will not be as exciting as it was in their youth. While it is true that erections are usually less
frequent, the advantage is that the erections that older men do get will last longer and they will
be find sex satisfying. Since the compulsion to ejaculate is significantly reduced, there is
abundant time for foreplay, and the expression of warmth and intimacy by partners. Women need
to learn though that their fifty-something-year-old husband may now be satisfied without
ejaculating, and may no longer be aroused merely by sight. Indeed, medical research has proven
that partners in their 50s are often more in step with each other emotionally and sexually,
particularly if they are in good health and are not taking medication that weakens their sex drive.
Sex in the 60’s
Interestingly, couples in their sixties and after may actually find their sexual experience most
gratifying, even though sex is infrequent. Women in this age group have recurrent orgasms, and
the men when strong physically, may be quite virile.^1
From the above, it is apparent that the potential for a fulfilling sex life is available to couples
at any age––they ought to settle for nothing less!
The Janus Report noted that those aged 70 and over who were having sex said it was at least
as gratifying as ever. Some said it was at its best. No wonder researchers couldn’t find a single
study subject under the age of 90 who wasn’t having sex when he or she was interested and had
a partner.^2
Notes- Allison Glock, Sex After 35: It Can Be Better(Reader’s Digest, November 1997), 187 - 92.
- See also Tim and Beverly La Haye, Act of Marriage after 40(Grand Rapids, Michigan:
Zondervan Publishing House, 2000), 94 - 97.