Model Marriage
- He may be dedicated and self-sacrificing.
- He is faithful and loyal, making him productive.
- He is very tidy.
- May be so consumed with looking for the perfect partner that he may be slow in
choosing one.^1
Weaknesses of a Melancholic Husband
- His first reaction to anything is negative. He suffers from negative thoughts and
worsens the problem by verbalizing them and this devastates his wife, children and
friends. - His temperament is termed “the dark temperament” because he suffers from depression
often. - He is constantly examining his spiritual life and coming up short in his own mind,
even though he is most likely to be more devoted than others. - He lacks confidence.
- He needs to be motivated externally by God, by others or by projects. Most of the
prophets in the Bible appear to have been melancholic e.g. Moses and Elijah. - He is subject to mood swings and can be very sensitive.
- He is prone to be an introvert and also has a variety of moods.
- He may act extroverted at times and be gloomy and depressed at other
times. - When he is gloomy, he becomes withdrawn and antagonistic.
- He may be stiff and calculating and not generous.
- He keeps a lot within, which comes out suddenly.
- He sees the negative side of things and is critical, making it difficult to stay with him.
- He may not talk much at home.
- He needs a lot of love.
- Disappointing experiences make him reluctant to take people at face value.
- He is often suspicious when others seek him out or shower him with
affection. - He needs to be told he is wanted and loved.
- He may appear unbearable.
- He finds it difficult to forgive.
- He is very choosy about dressing, colours and what to eat.
- He is picky and constantly arranging things. He resents a wife who is untidy.2