What it Means to Have a Melancholic Husband or Wife
- She is most likely to be over-modest about life, sex and her body. She may use
religious arguments to avoid sex.
- With her, little issues turn into huge problems.
- She greatly revenges for little things. She feels things should be done in another way:
why so late, why in the morning, why have you not had a bath, etc.
- She is often jealous of her husband’s friendliness to others.
- It is common after a social gathering, for her to go home in icy silence, very angry
and accusative against her spouse for being friendly and chatty to all the others at
the gathering, because she often marries a man who is outgoing and
friendly to everyone (a sanguine).
- She accuses her husband of flirting.
- Since her husband’s male ego gets little praise at home, he unwisely
seeks it at social gatherings and he may often think, “Nothing I ever do
satisfies that woman.”
- She is prone to self-pity and depression. She can descend into depression and lack of
interest in life due to a slight rejection.
- She is unable to enjoy life, happiness and the peace and love that God brings to her
because she focuses on imperfections.
- A melancholic woman’s biggest problem in life is her tendency toward self-pity. A
slight rejection can make her follow self-pitying thoughts into depression until she is
not interested in love or anything else.
- She finds it difficult to accept her husband as he is, without making major changes to
his life and activities. She finds it difficult to allow God to change her spouse in his
time.
- She is an inhibited and restrained person, unable to give much love. She needs to
learn that when she sows [love, friendliness], she will reap [love and friendliness] in
return.
Notes
- Tim LaHaye, I Love You Buy Why Are We So Different?(Eugene, Oregon: Harvest House,
1991), 44, 46; Joyce Meyer, Help Me I’m Married!(Fenton, Missouri: Warner Books, 2000),
- Tim LaHaye, I Love You But Why Are We So Different?(Eugene, Oregon: Harvest House,
1991), 44, 46.
- Ibid.,13 - 17.
- Joyce Meyer, Help Me, I’m Married!(Fenton, Missouri: Warner Books, 2000), 227.
