What it Means to Have a Phlegmatic Husband or Wife- He will not volunteer for leadership on his own but when it is forced on him he proves to
be a very capable leader. - He acts as a natural peacemaker.^1
Weaknesses of a Phlegmatic Husband
- He lacks drive and ambition.
- He rarely exceeds the status quo and he always seems to do the expected.
- He rarely initiates an activity and usually gives excuses in order to avoid getting
involved with the activities of others. - He is selfish although this is usually not so obvious and he is so gracious and proper
that few people are aware of it. Selfishness makes him self-indulgent and unconcerned
about his family’s need for activity. - He is miserly except for clothes for himself or tools for his work.
- No-one can be more stubborn than a phlegmatic but he is so diplomatic about it that
people do not realize it. - He never openly confronts another person or refuses to do something but will
somehow manage not to do it. - In family situations, he often doesn’t yell or argue; he just drags his feet or refuses to
move. - He can be exasperating to a more aggressive partner by his passive, laid-back style.
Sanguines and cholerics particularly struggle with phlegmatic spouses because they
are used to making quick and headstrong decisions. - A phlegmatic person could be mistaken for a Christian even as an unbeliever.
- He is polite and diplomatic about the expression of the old sinful nature.
- One of his chief weaknesses is that he has very little motivation.
- He is very fearful under the surface and this fear can cause many problems.
- Phlegmatics are prone to procrastination.
- Tend to make slow, methodical decisions which can enrage the other temperaments.
- In marriage, it becomes very easy for a phlegmatic to give up all decision-making to
his more powerful and lively spouse. - Finances:
- He is an unmotivated man.
- He is not likely to achieve much.
- He may not be rich, successful or progressive.
- He may often be miserly and not provide much.