What it Means to Have a Phlegmatic Husband or Wife- He can be stingy, stubborn and selfish in a diplomatic way.
- He can crawl into a shell of silence if things don’t work out.^2
Strengths of a Phlegmatic Wife
- Afua Phlegmatic is comforting––doesn’t draw attention to herself but draws hurting
people to herself. This is because hurting people sense that they have found a safe
listening ear. Even total strangers tend to open up to the phlegmatic woman telling
her about their problems and being comforted by her. - Actually feels the pain of others.
- She’ll call you just to see if everything is okay.
- Sympathetic listener with genuine concern for others.
- Is able to listen to people’s woes for hours on end without trying to fix you or
interrupt your story. - Takes sincere delight in ministering to people’s heartfelt needs.
- Thoughtful––she thinks about others and what their needs may be and tries to help.
- Attentive––loves sending notes and cards.
- Loyal––a very loyal friend; once she’s yours, she’s yours for keeps. Steadfastly
maintains deep, abiding relationships with a small circle of childhood friends. - May grow discouraged feeling that others don’t reciprocate in friendship.
- Peacemaker––rarely gets bogged down with inter-personal conflict. She thrives on
harmony and will do whatever she can to maintain it. - Is quick to adjust to people around her and never insists on having things her way. It
is her sincere desire to please others. - Has a wonderful ability to see every side of an issue and to help others see the other
person’s view. - Her mediation skills are valuable in the church and on the job as well as in her
neighbourhood. - Dependable––she will be there even in rough times.
- Protective––over her children and family.
- Takes time for the children––may have a large family.
- Patient––not easily angered; willing to go with the flow and doesn’t insist that things
go her way. - Faithful––has an exceptional ability to absorb emotional pain and still maintain her
commitment to another person. She would stick with a difficult marriage long after
most women would have given up. But when she makes up her mind that it is over,
it’s really over. - Devoted caregiver––she is willing to set aside her own needs to meet the needs of others.