Chapter 49

Appease Her and sympathise with Her

Awomanalso,similartoaman,undergoes emotionalchanges.Sheex-
perienceshappiness, anger,sorrow, etc.Shebecomestired fromhouse-
workandmaybecomeannoyedwiththechildren.Othersmayupsether
bytheircriticisms.Shemightbecomeinvolvedincompetingwithothers.
[nshort,awomanconfrontsmany problemsofwhich somemay affect
hersomuchsothatshemightbecomedesperatetosuchanextentsoas
to react unkindly towards trivial matters.

Thisisespeciallythecaseforwomen,becausetheyareverysensitive
andwouldreactmorecriticallytowardsunpleasanteventsascompared
tomen. Women,who experience hardship, needappeasing. Menmust
comfortthembecausetheyaretheirpartnersandtheoneswhoaretrus-
ted by their wives.

DearSir!whenyoufindyourwifeinastateofdistressandanger,then
trytounderstandhersituation.Ifyouenteryourhouseandshedoesnot
saluteyou,yousay'salam'toher.Thiswouldnotbelittleyou.Talktoher
withasmilingface.Avoidgrimness.Helpherinthehousework.Becare-
fulnottooffendherinanyway.Donorteaseher.Ifsheisnotinamood
to talk, then leave her alone. Do not say: 'What is wrong with you?'

Ifshefeelsliketalking,listentoherandsympathisewithher.Pretend
youare more concerned with her problem thanherself. Lether reveal
hergrievancesforyou.Thenlikeakindfatherorasympathetichusband
trytohelp herfinda solutiontoher problem.Encourageher tobepa-
tient.Throughwisdomandlogicmakeherregardherproblemsastrivi-
al.Strengthenhercharacterandassistherinovercomingthecauseofher
annoyance.