Principles of Marriage and Family Ethics

(Chris Devlin) #1

Evenitamanissuccessfulinre-marrying,itisnotatallobviousthat
his newlifewould be any betterthan his firstwife. She may even be
worse. Such men usually prefer to divorce their second wife and re-
marry the initial one. But usually it is too late for such a move.


"An eighty-yearold mansaidin the court: 'Ihada toed lifewhen I
marriedmyfirstwifeaboutsixtyyearsago.Butafterawhileshestarted
mistreatingsoIdivorcedher.Imarriedafewwomenafterthat,butfelt
that myfirst wife wasthe mostfaithfulamong them.I found her and
askedhertore-marryme.She,whowasalsotiredofloneliness,agreed.
and we now want to marry again'.


"Amandivorced hissecond wifebecauseshecouldnot takecare of
thetwochildrenthathehadfromhisfirstmarriage.Hethanremarried
his first wife whom he had divorced five years ago.''


Second Point: A couple, which seeks separation. must also think of
their children. Children's comfort lies ma family where their both the
parents live together and take care of them jointly.


Uponthebreakingdownofthefamilylife,childrenbecomeextremely
upset.If onlyheir fatherlooksafter them. They wouldbe deprived or
motherlylove.Theywould notenjoylifewith stepmothereither. Step-
mother,notonlyareunabletoactastheirgenuinemothers,butmayre-
gardtheir step-childrenasa burden.Somestep-mothers maltreattheir
step-childrenandmakethemupsetdeliberatelyandtheirfathershaveto
remain silent.


''Afourteen-yearoldbridewhohadattemptedtocommitsuicidesaid
in the hospital. 'My parents separated when I was one-years old. My
fatherremarriedafteroneandhalfyearsandwearenowlivingtogether.
Mystepmotherusedtobeatmeupandevenburntmewithahotmetal
rodonafewoccasions.Myfather,eventhoughawelloffman,preven-
tedmefromStudyinganddeprivedmefromlearning.About 11 month
ago my father forced 'lie to marry a forty-five year old man".


''A thirteen-year old girl hung herself. This girl lived with her two
brothers. One of the brothers said: 'my parents separated about three
yearsago.Mymotherre-marriedanotherman,andmyfatherdiedtwo

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