Chapter 17

If You Have to Live Away From Your Home town

Onemayhavetoliveawayfromone'shometown.Yourhusbandmaybe
workingfortheprivateorthepublicsectorandsentondutytoanother
cityortownalso.Somepeopleliveinthiswayeithertemporarilyorper-
manently.Men areforced tocope withthissituation butsomewomen
preferto be near their parents and relatives. These women are accus-
tomedtothestreets, walls,andtheenvironmentoftheirplace ofbirth.
After moving away they blame their husbands and complain: "Why
shouldIliveawayfrommyhomeHowlongamIgoingtobeawayfrom
myhomeandmyparentsIhavenooneinthisplace.Whatisthis,place
you have brought me? I cannot stay here so think of a way out.

Thesewomenshouldnot upsettheirhusbandsinthisway.Theyare
sofeeble-mindedthattheythinktheirbirthplacesarethebestlocations
tolive.Theythinkthattheycannotenjoylifeanywhereelse.Mankindis
notsatisfiedevenwithitsownplanet,soithassteppedontootherplan-
ets.Butonelooksandfindsawomanwhoissoimprovidentthatsheis
notpreparedtoliveafewmilesawayfromherhometown.Shethinksto
herself: "Why should I leave all my friends and relatives to get to a
strangeplace?Itisasifthisladyisnotself-confidentenoughtobeable
to find new friends in another place away from her home.

Dear Madam! Be wise and sacrificing. Do not be selfish. Now that
your husband's jobhas taken you away from your hometown, do not
causehimanydistress.Ifheisacivilservant,hehasorderstotravelon
dutyandifhehasaprivatebusiness,thensurelyitistohisadvantageto
liveinanotherlocation.Ifyourhusbandinformsyouthathehastolive
inanotherplace,thenyoushouldagreeatonce. Youshouldthenhelp
pack upandmoveto newplaceswhere youmust tryto feelathome.
Planyourlifeinthisnewhomeandadaptyourselfto it.Sinceyouare
newintheareaandprobablynotfamiliarwiththecharacteristicsofthe