Chapter 13
Chapter 13: Dating and Mating .....................................................................................
In This Chapter
Attracting someone’s attention
Showing that you’re interested
Progressing through the romance
T
ry flirting without using body language. Go on, give it a go. Surprise, sur-
prise! It can’t be done. You simply can’t convey romantic interest without
the body getting into the act. To play a really successful game of flirtation
your body must speak what your mouth mustn’t say.If you’re feeling good about yourself the way you focus your eyes, position
your mouth, and manoeuvre your shoulders, hips, and hands send out signals
that say, ‘Check me out! I think you’re hot!’ After you get your target’s atten-
tion you shift gears to hold onto his or her interest and move the attraction to
another level. Finally, having captured and conquered the unsuspecting, or
equally interested party, your body moves into a new mode of behaving that
demonstrates comfort, ease, and familiarity. Observe how long-term lovers
anticipate one another’s actions by the way they move in synch with their
partners.How you use your body exposes how ready you are for a bit of romance, how
attractive you feel, and how interested you are. Some courtship signals are
deliberate, others are unconscious. In this chapter I explore the wide, wild
world of courtship behaviour and see how it can put a big smile on your face.Attracting Someone’s Attention .................................................................
Watch a person in the company of someone he or she finds attractive and see
what happens. The stomach gets pulled in, whether it needs to be or not,
slumping is exchanged for an upright stance, displays of health and vitality
are conveyed through a lively walk, muscle tone becomes heightened, and a
youthful appearance replaces the ravages of time or too many late nights.