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focused on you. Establishing and maintaining eye contact with other people
shows you’re interested in them. And if you show interest in other people,
they’re going to be attracted to you.When you look at someone, make sure that your eyes reflect your curiosity
for who that person is. Refrain from frowning, squinting, or avoiding eye con-
tact all together, unless you want to make him feel as if he’s being judged or
simply ignored. And scrunching up your face gives you lines and wrinkles
long before they’re due.By paying attention and demonstrating care you make the other person feel
important. Anyone who makes another person feel significant and worth-
while is automatically perceived as attractive.Showing Liveliness in Your Face ................................................................
Smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone. At least, that’s
what my grandfather told me. A natural, genuine smile, where both the eyes
and the mouth are engaged, is appealing. People want to be with someone
who makes them feel good. Frowning, pouting, and a generally miserable face
are definite turn-offs.A face that shows liveliness, interest, and enjoyment is like a magnet. It draws
people to you and makes them want to be in your company. By smiling you can
directly influence how other people feel about you. You can control their reac-
tion to you by the look on your face. By making judicious use of your facial
expressions you can guide people into responding positively to you and to per-
ceiving you as an attractive person. This is not to say that you should walk
around with an artificial grin plastered to your face; that’s a definite turn off.Offering Encouragement .............................................................................
By nodding, tilting, and cocking your head in another person’s direction you
show that you’re listening and are interested in what he’s saying. And anyone
who shows interest is consistently perceived as attractive.Nodding encourages the person to continue speaking and shows that you
care. Tilting your head to one side also shows that you’re involved and
paying attention. Appealing minor head gestures, showing concern, fascina-
tion, or involvement in someone’s story, make you seem connected and
empathetic. And who doesn’t find those characteristics attractive and
appealing?