Respecting someone’s personal space is an attractive quality. In a work or
social context, when you choose to position yourself next to another person
you’re telling him that you value him and are interested in what he has to say.
Attractive people don’t purposely embarrass someone else and never inten-
tionally invade someone’s territory. They position themselves close enough
without being so close as to cause embarrassment.If you want to reveal your attractiveness, respect the other person’s space. If
you sit or stand near the person you’re engaging with and look at him
directly, he feels confident and comfortable in your company.Touching to Connect ...................................................................................
Attractive people aren’t afraid to make physical contact. They know the pow-
erful effect an appropriate touch can have. Touching can be used to encour-
age, to express affection or compassion, and to show support.An attractive person demonstrates respect when touching someone else.
Your attractiveness quota rises if you intentionally touch another person in
these situations:When you’re listening to someone’s problems or concerns, touching the
other person indicates that you care and are offering support.When you’re persuading someone to your point of view, your touch
serves as a bridge connecting the other person to your position.
When you’re giving information or advice, your touch conveys encour-
agement and cooperation.Only touch another person if you have a relationship that permits deliberate
physical contact. Touching implies that a bond exists between the people
involved. Observe the kind of contact people feel comfortable with before ini-
tiating contact. If in doubt about how your touch is going to be received, best
not do it.Being on Time ..............................................................................................
The most attractive people are those who demonstrate respect and care for
others. Although you may not think that how you manage your time has any-
thing to do with body language, it’s an integral aspect of non-verbal commu-
nication, which is why I’ve included it here.274 Part V: The Part of Tens