We look to see who shakes hands harder, who holds eye contact longer,
who accepts what the other person is saying quicker, or who uses submissive
body language.
There‘s a deeply unconscious part of the brain which looks for social order,
and humans always live in hierarchies.
People who are naturally ―dominant‖ and naturally ―submissive‖ both
become used to it, and these strategies quickly become automatic. Attractive
women are used to being in control, so a man who uses submissive body
language, doesn‘t hold eye contact, allows them to control the direction of the
conversation, and acts apologetic has no chance.
As soon as a woman perceives at an unconscious level that she’s the one in
control (which, by the way, can be as soon as a guy has just walked up to
them) all interest is lost and it‘s nearly impossible to recover.
We want to know who‘s in control. First.
If a woman thinks that it‘s her, she‘s VERY unlikely to feel ATTRACTION for
you.
The mindset and belief system that leads to naturally being in control
contains the following ―affirmations‖:
I'm confident, comfortable in my own skin (posture, breath,
movements). I'm a good communicator—especially of what I want. I'm in control and don't let outside events destabilize me. I'm not needy... I keep my power for me. I think sex is great and have no hang-ups. I'm comfortable around women. I can control myself and can wait patiently. I don't tolerate disrespect of myself, my time, or my property. I'm a catch. I'm not impressed by outward symbols, such as money or status. I may be smitten by a woman, but I don‘t tell her early on, and I don't
let it 'slip' indirectly.