began to realize that none of the methods being sold out there were quite as
good as the authors claimed.
After literally a couple of years of trying different things, I finally shifted
course. I started watching what guys who were successful with women did in
real-world situations, and I started asking them for help. This is when things
all started to happen for me.
One friend showed me how he met women at bars, another showed me
how he met women online, another showed me how he met women at dance
clubs, and another showed me how he approached women on the street.
From this combination of watching guys who were successful with women
and testing new ideas online, I realized a few key things:
1) The things that came "natural" to me, like being "nice" to women,
kissing up to them, buying them things, and doing all the things that
"mommy taught me" didn't work the way they "should have". Women
didn't respond to kind, giving, ass-kissing behavior by giving me
attention and approval. They responded to it by running the other way.2) Attraction Isn‘t A Choice – but most men act as if it is. If a woman
doesn't feel it, then it's going to be VERY hard to make any progress
beyond, "I only like you as a friend."3) Attraction works very differently for women than it does for men. Men
are attracted to looks first, personality second. Women are attracted to
personality first, looks second. (I know that a woman will see you
before getting to know you, so you'll be JUDGED on your looks, but as
far as attraction is concerned, personality is more important.)4) Men see all physically attractive women as potential sex partners, but
women don't see all physically attractive men this way. A woman has
to find out a bit about you first – namely, whether or not you‘re a
Wussy. Then she'll decide if you're either "friendship material" or
"possible romantic material."I‘ve found that most books written on the topic of dating and relationships
are only half-right. They only tell you what women are ―supposed‖ to be
attracted to according to the unwritten rules of society. The problem with
these books is that they don‘t actually address the subject of attraction!
I‘ve found that when it comes to dating and romance, a woman's
STRONGEST desire is to be with a man that she feels a strong emotional
attraction for... a man that fits her genetic, archetypal lock... the Yang in her
Yin.
My belief is that attraction is so powerful that a man who is not physically
attractive, who doesn't have money, who isn't tall, etc. can win the affections