Constantly treating her like you‘re lucky to have her isn’t ATTRACTIVE, but
it‘s NICE. And I don‘t think I need to say anything about where nice guys
finish, do I?
If you‘ve read my previous book and any of my newsletters, you probably
learned a few things that helped you get her attention in the first place. But
when this pattern happens you probably STOPPED doing the things that you
did originally and started trying to "please" her...
STOP IT! Let's go back to ATTRACTION 101. ATTRACTION ISN'T A
CHOICE–IT'S A RESPONSE. In other words, women don't choose who they're
attracted to. They respond to behaviors, communication, confidence, and
other triggers.
We‘ve talked a lot about attraction not being a choice—that also means
that WOMEN CAN‘T STOP THEIR ATTRACTION FROM TURNING OFF.
A woman doesn't want a guy who acts like one of her girlfriends! She
doesn't need another friend! So what do most guys do when they meet
attractive women? Of course.
They act like a girlfriend! They ask how her day was and what she wants to
do tonight, listen to her problems, offer to help, and kiss her ass until she
finally says: "Will you act like a man already?" Women resent men that they
can control. But the paradox is that they'll keep trying JUST TO MAKE SURE
THEY CAN'T.
You will always be tested. Get used to it.
Why Women Run Once the Submissive ―Nice Guy‖ Appears
Why do women like their male friends? Because they give her what she
wants and put up with her BS.
Why do attractive women feel attraction for challenging men? Because
they don‘t just give her what she wants—she has to earn what she gets, and
because they don‘t put up with her BS—they‘re focused on enjoying their own
life and not sympathizing with whining.
Once the average guy‘s got a girl, he wants to show he‘s happy with her
and so acts generously. This idea seems logical. But the problem with this
logic is the series of subconscious thoughts it leads her to think:
This guy is happy with her.
This guy‘s not perfect (no one‘s perfect).
She‘s not perfect.