Read that last part again... DON'T TRY TO MAKE A WOMAN FEEL
ATTRACTED TO YOU WITH ROMANCE!
Attraction is created by factors other than gifts, dinners, or flowers.
If she's not feeling attracted to you, then showing her that you're attracted
to her probably isn't going to change it... in fact, it may just push her away.
I know, I know... you once heard about a guy who pursued a woman for 9
years until she finally gave in and married him. Well, that might work, but I
really wouldn‘t want you to be spending that long on one person...
Attracting vs. Impressing
Attract, Don‟t Impress
We really screw it up when we act like we‘re trying to impress.
Many guys think that they have to impress a woman when they first meet
her. So they ask women on dates and take them to expensive dinners, buy
them gifts, and generally try to win the woman's affection and attention with
money. I believe that it's better to give a woman a GOOD TIME than it is to
give her an EXPENSIVE TIME.
Let me explain. If you ask a woman out to dinner, then take her to an
expensive restaurant, you are communicating something that you may not
realize... In effect, you're saying "I'm attracted to you, and I'm going to play
the dating game with you. My role is chasing you and buying you dinners and
gifts, and your role is to play hard to get and maybe get affectionate with me
after 5 or 6 dates..."
I know that I'm generalizing, but when you start off by doing all the things
that are part of her idea of courtship, you're probably going to wind up
spending a LOT of money, and putting her in the frame of mind that she's
going to get a lot of free food (and to not be affectionate with you too soon,
because the food supply might stop). I mean, if you take a woman out to nice
dinners the first three times that you see her, what is she going to expect for
the rest of the relationship? A hired chef and a limousine?
So what's the answer? I think the answer is to NEVER play that game in
the first place. This way you'll never have to deal with this social game, the
high expectations, and the expense.