Here's the deal: Women aren't usually romantically
attracted to "nice" guys. Women are attracted to men who
are funny, confident, and mysterious. Good looks don't
hurt, but if you're not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then
you have to learn how to attract women with your
personality. And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.
I was just in the bookstore the other day, and I
happened to pick up Motley Crue's new book "The Dirt:
Confessions of the World’s Most Notorious Rock Band." As I
was flipping through the pages, I realized that these guys
have dated more of the world's most attractive women than
anyone (except maybe Hugh Hefner). In case you didn't know,
the guys in Motley Crue are not very "nice". They're famous
for taking every drug known to man, beating their women,
fighting, and having a lot of people die around them. Now,
the first thing most guys say is "Yea, but they're rich and
famous..." And this is true, they are rich and famous. But,
and it's a BIG ONE... all of the women that they have
dated, married, and beaten up are ALSO RICH AND FAMOUS TOO!
These are supermodels and playmates of the year and such.
These women can date whoever they want. Tommy Lee was
MARRIED to both Heather Locklear AND Pamela Anderson...
remember? These women didn't need Tommy Lee for his money
or his fame... get it?
So what's going on here? And more importantly, how can
you use this information to be more successful with women
and dating? First of all, don't go out and start taking
drugs and beating up your dates. I mean, I know that an
occasional woman will drive a man to drink, but I don't
recommend going “Motley Crue” on a girl.
The first chapter of my book "Double Your Dating" is
called "Women Don't Make Sense". Here's what I mean... I
believe:
- Women make decisions very, very quickly about
whether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if he
has romantic potential, and once her decision is
made, it's probably going to stay made. - These decisions are made "unconsciously", meaning
that women make all of them quickly and at a "gut
level".