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TABLE 5.2
Procedures for Improving Self-Talk
Procedures Questions
- Listen to your own self-talk “What am I
You can’t alter inner speech unless you understand what telling myself?”
you are telling yourself. - Decide if your inner dialogue is helpful or harmful. “Is it helping?”
Examine how your inner speech affects your emotions,
motivation, and behavior. If your self-talk is helping,
maintain it. If your self-talk is harmful, change it. - Identify the type of self-talk in which you are engaged. “What type of
Is it from the Worrier, the Critic, the Victim, or the self-talk is main-
Perfectionist? taining my nega-
tive self-talk?” - Replace your harmful self-talk with positive self-talk. “What per-
Give yourself permission to try another strategy to deal mission and
with the event or situation. Identify your positive self-affirmation
characteristics (e.g., desire, concentration, ability) that will I give
will help deal with the event. Try writing a counter- myself?”
argument to your negative self-talk. - Develop a guide: Decide what action to take consonant “What action will
with your new supportive position. I take based on
If you decide that your self-talk is harmful, you want to my new positive
change your behavior as well as your attitude or position?”
emotional response. Specify this new behavior.
original goal. In addition, she doubts her ability and motivation to
perform well in science. During the first semester at college, she
becomes upset because she is not studying what she really wants and
decides to explore her own self-talk.
Questions Reply
What am I telling
myself?
I’m saying to myself, “I really would like
to go to medical school.” Then I think,
“Oh, come on, Sharon, you’re being silly.
Medical school is hard and you’ll never be
able to do the work.”
Is it helping? No. It’s keeping me from doing what I
really want to do.
What type of self- The Critic
talk is maintain-
ing my negative
self-talk?
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