428 Chapter 11IPV is more common among younger
couples (Capaldi, Kim, & Shortt, 2004). In
one study, 46% of male victims and 49% of
female victims were under the age of 35, de-
spite the fact that this age group comprised
only 20%–23% of the population (Laroche,violence among men five years later. Men who
engage in IPV or tolerate IPV also score higher
on hostile sexism (Glick et al., 2002), masculine
gender-role stress (Copenhaver, Lash, & Eisler,
2000), and unmitigated agency (Mosher &
Danoff-Burg, 2005).Power
and
ControlUsing Coercion
and ThreatsUsing
EconomicUsing
IntimidationUsing
ChildrenUsing Male Privilege Using IsolationMinimizing,
Denying,
and BlamingAbuseUsing
Emotional
AbuseMaking her afraid by using
looks, actions, gestures- smashing things
- destroying her property
- abusing pets
- displaying
weapons
Making light of the
abuse and not taking her
concerns about it seriously- saying the abuse didn’t
happen • shifting
responsibility for
abusive behavior - saying she
caused it
Making and/or carrying out
threats to do something
to hurt her • threatening to
leave her, to commit
suicide, to report her
to welfare • making
her drop charges- making her
do illegal
things
Making her feel guilty
about the children • using
the children to relay
messages • using visitation to
harass her • threatening to take
the children awayPreventing her from getting
or keeping a job • making her
ask for money • giving her an
allowance • taking her money • not
letting her know about or have access to
family incomePutting her down • making
her feel bad about herself- calling her names • making her
think she’s crazy • playing mind
games • humiliating her • making
her feel guilty
Treating her like a servant • making all
the big decisions • acting like the
“master of the castle” • being the
one to define men’s and
women’s rolesControlling what she does, who she sees
and talks to, what she reads, where
she goes • limiting her outside
involvement • using jealousy
to justify actionsPHYSICALVIOLENCE
SEX
UA
LPH
YS
ICA
LVIOLENCE
SEXUALFIGURE 11.12 Control tactics involved in intimate terrorism.
Source: E. Pence and M. Paymar (1993). Education groups for men who batter: The Duluth model.
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