what else.
viii. How much more damage anger and grief do than
the things that cause them.
ix. That kindness is invincible, provided it’s sincere—
not ironic or an act. What can even the most vicious
person do if you keep treating him with kindness and
gently set him straight—if you get the chance—
correcting him cheerfully at the exact moment that he’s
trying to do you harm. “No, no, my friend. That isn’t
what we’re here for. It isn’t me who’s harmed by that.
It’s you.” And show him, gently and without pointing
fingers, that it’s so. That bees don’t behave like this—or
any other animals with a sense of community. Don’t do
it sardonically or meanly, but affectionately—with no
hatred in your heart. And not ex cathedra or to impress
third parties, but speaking directly. Even if there are
other people around.
Keep these nine points in mind, like gifts from the nine
Muses, and start becoming a human being. Now and for
the rest of your life.
And along with not getting angry at others, try not to
pander either. Both are forms of selfishness; both of
them will do you harm. When you start to lose your
temper, remember: There’s nothing manly about rage.