Shortcut to coaching
Some of the most powerful coaching is the simplest. At its
roots NLP is a state of interest and curiosity. Applying these
two principles, here is a shortcut to coaching.1 Invite someone to tell you an issue for which they would
like new choices or increased understanding.
2 Get into a state of curiosity and acceptance.
3 Get yourself into a similar posture and way of moving as the
other person. This is approximate—you don’t have to
mimic. Think of yourself as being connected to them.
4 Listen intently to what they are telling you. Mentally note
the words they are using and the gestures they are making.
5 Ask them open questions (see precision questions in
Chapter 6) using only the words they give you. Don’t in any
way try to give suggestions or make changes to what they
are saying, just be curious to the degree that you
understand fully what they are saying, only exploring those
aspects of the situation that they are giving you.
6 Summarize back to them from time to time, using their
language. Keep to their vocabulary and use their nonverbal
style of communicating when you do this summary.
7 While they are talking, identify how you have the structure
of this issue within yourself too and how you either have or
are dealing with it in your life.
8 Imagine the other person achieving what they really want.
See, hear, and feel it until you believe that they are capable
of a greater potential than they have demonstrated to date,
either with respect to this issue or in their lives as a whole.
Think this as you speak to them (keep this vision to yourself).
9 Recognize that the person is bringing this issue to you so
that you can learn too.
10 Summarize what you have heard and what you believe the
other person is feeling.
11 Ask them if there is anything else they would like from you.NLP high performance coaching is founded on the study of our
subjective experience. By discovering how we structure our366 NLP AT WORK
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