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ACROSS
1 Breaks in
relations
6 Update
cartographically
11 Adorns with
Charmin,
for short
14 Basketball
Hall of Famer __
Thomas
15 Sherlock
Holmes’
younger sister
as depicted in
a recent Nancy
Springer book
series
16 Hot temper
17 Using any
available means
20 He broke Babe’s
record in 19 74
21 Tu lip-to-be
22 Kitchen
protection
23 Rocks in a bar
24 “Miss Saigon”
setting
25 Clear out
26 A college
applicant
may have to
write one
28 City on the Ruhr
31 Roman 151
32 Ella’s forte
34 Strain
35 Swiss Army knife’s
assortment
36 Dashboard
gauges
39 Go for a rebound
42 Generation __
43 Opportunity
metaphor
45 Ike’s WWII
command
46 Heathcliff’s love
48 Future docs’
exams
51 Cassiterite, e.g.
53 A-lister
55 Govt. mortgage
agcy.
56 Golf goof
57 Slangy sweeties
59 Stern’s opposite
60 Novelty piano
piece of 1921 ...
and a hint to this
puzzle’s theme
63 Skater Midori
64 Old Venetian
coin65 Havana’s __
Castle
66 Leb. neighbor
67 Soliloquy site
68 Elizabeth of
“WandaVision”DOWN
1 Singer Lionel
2 Jason of “Harry
Potter” films
3 Exercise goal
4 Thumb-pressed
nail
5 Theater rebuke
6 Continue
7 Ltr. insert
8 Utah city with a
biblical name
9 __-rock: music
genre
10 Game with
ghosts and a
maze
11 Tiny breath
mints
12 Ta lk nonsense
13 Martial arts
instructors
18 Attorney’s gp.
19 Juice box brand
24 Long-distance
swimmer Diana25 Perturbed
27 “Rent-__”: 1988
film
29 Curry of the
NBA’s Warriors
30 Warmed the
bench
33 Senate
cover-ups?
35 Dream Te am org.
37 Yo ga surface
38 Frolic39 Kawasaki
watercraft
40 The U in “SUV”
41 Hall pass checker
44 Roof supports
46 Belief systems
47 “The Big Fib”
host __ Nicole
Brown
49 “A nd __ off!”
50 Biblical
strongman52 Fall mo.
54 Suffix like -like
57 Fla. resort
58 To ilets for
T. S. Eliot?: Abbr.
59 Vodka brand
that sounds
like a toast
61 Trail mix
morsel
62 Fall Out Boy
genreLA TIMES CROSSWORD By David PooleTUESDAY’S LA TIMES SOLUTION© 2021 Tribune Content Agency, LLC. 1/19/22kidspost
thought, actually, I don’t know
how long I c an survive,” Ruther-
ford said. She didn’t have to find
out.
She had another close call near
North Korea. She tried to squeeze
between North Korean airspace
and a massive cloud threatening
to cut off passage for her ultra-
light plane.
She radioed her control team
to ask if she could cut the corner
over the country to get to Seoul,
South Korea. “Straight away they
said: ‘Whatever you do, do not go
into North Korean airspace!’ ”
Fortunately she was able to avoid
both the clouds and possible
conflict with North Korea leader
Kim Jong Un’s government.
Overall, bad weather, a flat tire
and visa issues added two
months to the planned three-
month project. During a stop in
Crete, Greece, the weather was so
bad that it delayed her f or several
days, which gave her time to
ponder the fickleness of fate.
“When you’re fearing for your
life, it puts things into perspec-
tive a little bit more,” she said.
In wealthy nations, “we grow
up in a world with a huge amount
of safety nets,” she said. “Actually
flying over Alaska, Russia or
Greenland, that’s when you real-
ize — actually, there is no safety
net. Like, this is really just me.
There’s nobody here to help me if
anything is wrong.”
The wider world, though, of-
fered much more than fear. She
spoke dreamily of the Saudi Ara-
bian desert with its changing
colors of sand and rock, the
emptiness of northern Alaska
and the sight of what’s been
called the world’s loneliest house
on Iceland’s deserted island of
Ellioaey.
She’s come to appreciate sim-
pler pleasures, too. “Before, it
was — yeah — it was about the
grand adventure,” she said. “But
actually ... watching TV with your
cat has its special things as well.”
[email protected]BY ASSOCIATED PRESSTeenage pilot Zara Rutherford,
19, plans to land her single-seat
Shark sport aircraft in Kortrijk,
Belgium, this week, more than
150 days after setting out to
become the youngest woman to
travel around the world alone.
American aviator Shaesta Waiz
was age 30 when she set the
previous benchmark.
Flying runs in her blood: Her
parents are pilots, and she has
been traveling in small planes
since she was 6 y ears old. At age
14, she started learning to fly.
About 130 hours of solo flights
prepared her for the record at-
tempt, which she hopes will have
a bigger meaning. The Belgian-
British teenager wants to share
with young women and girls
worldwide the spirit of aviation
— and an enthusiasm for science,
technology, engineering and
math.
Two mathematical statistics
stand out for her — only 5 percent
of commercial pilots and 15 per-
cent of computer scientists are
women. “The gender gap is huge,”
she said.
Yet once the canopy closed
over her cockpit and another 6-
to 8-hour flight began, she con-
centrated on one individual —
herself.
Using Visual Flight Rules, basi-
cally relying on sight only, danger
lurked even closer than when she
would be able to use fancy navi-
gational instruments to lead her
through the night, clouds or fog.
Crossing Northern California
from Palo Alto toward Seattle,
Washington, she headed into
hu ge wildfires engulfing the area.
The higher she climbed to avoid
the smoke — up to 10,000 feet —
the tougher it was to keep her
eyes on the ground.
“The smoke was building up
and up, to the point that the
whole cabin stank of smoke and I
could not see anything but a
burnished orange color,” Ruther-
ford said. She had to make an
unscheduled landing in Redding,
California.
Over Siberia, the light played
tricks on her vision, sometimes
making her doubt whether she
saw mountains or clouds. “And
for me clouds are a really big deal.
Especially in Russia,” with its
biting cold. Cutting through such
clouds, too much ice might build
up on her wings, paralyzing con-
trol. “At that point your plane isTeenage pilot h opes
to b reak r ecord flying
alone around world
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ILLUSTRATION BY LUCIA MUCCHETTI, 9, ARLINGTONVIRGINIA MAYO/ASSOCIATED PRESSno longer a plane,” she said.
That could have happened on a
section of the route where she
once saw only one village in six
hours. “I realized if something
goes wrong, I’m hours and hours
and hours away from rescue and
it was [minus-31 degrees Fahren-
heit] on the ground. And so IFLYZOLO/ASSOCIATED PRESSFLYZOLO/ASSOCIATED PRESSP ilot Zara Rutherford, 19, was scheduled to land her S hark sport
aircraft in Kortrijk, Belgium, this week, more than 150 days after
setting out to become the youngest woman to travel around the
world alone. CLOCKWISE FROM TOP: R utherford looks out from
her cockpit at the Hollywood sign in Los Angeles, California. The
Belgian-British Rutherford waves from her p lane before takeoff at
the Kortrijk-Wevelgem airfield on August 18. Rutherford, as a
child, rear left, is a passenger during a flight piloted by her father
Sam Rutherford. She started to learn to fly when she was age 14.that he’s not in touch.
But it’s not your place to fix
the consequences of his actions.
Seeing it as a family-unit issue —
yours to engage with — might
have been fine, but your
husband’s obstinacy ruled that
out.
Understanding this simplifies
how you respond to his
questions. You stop trying to give
the answer that will fix
everything, and instead give the
actual answer.
He: “Did they call you?”
You: “Yes/no.”
He: “Why didn’t they call me?”
You: “I don’t know, and he
didn't say.”
He: “Why didn’t they tell me
that?”
You: “I don’t know, and they
didn’t say.”
You aren’t at a loss for these
answers, right? Because they’re
the truth as far as you know it,
unembellished. If he wants more
information about what your
sons are thinking, then he will
have to ask them.
Anything beyond the truth as
you know it is speculationanyway — including your
diagnosis of these questions as
“other ways of telling me his
feelings are hurt.”
Until he starts owning this, his
feelings are hurt when he says
they are. His questions are face-
value requests for information.
And his relationships with his
sons are his to improve, with the
most basic tools he already
knows he has. Call, text, care.
If you’re badmouthing,
undermining or otherwise
sabotaging him to your boys,
then that would be on you to fix
— by cutting it out immediately.
And getting professional help for
whatever went horribly wrong.
Otherwise, though, you have
your relationships and he has his
— plus your full support for any
effort he makes to improve them.Write to Carolyn Hax at
[email protected]. Get her
column delivered to your inbox each
morning at wapo.st/gethax. Join the discussion live at noon
Fridays at washingtonpost.com/live-
chats.Hi, Carolyn: My
husband and I
have two grown
sons who both
live far away. I call
and text them
more often than
my husband does,
and persist in
trying to reach
them when I want to talk. Often,
when I tell my husband I have
talked to one of them, he
responds, “Did they call you?” or,
“Why didn’t they call me?” or,
“Why didn’t they tell me that?”
or other ways of telling me his
feelings are hurt because he feels
they have a closer relationship
with me than him. I don’t know
what to do with this.
Today I told him it made me
feel bad when he says that. He
got really upset, saying it made
him furious that I was saying it
made me feel bad when he told
me he felt bad that they have a
closer relationship with me. So, I
am at a l oss.
What should I say or feel
about this?
— Bad Feelings All AroundBad Feelings All Around: When
someone is so resistant to doing
the one thing that would solve
his problem and that also
happens to be right in front of
his face, and gets “furious” (!) at
you at the thinnest excuse of an
excuse to dump the blame on
somebody else, it can feel like an
invitation to fix it for him.
Because it’s right there! And it’s
so simple! And it’s causing so
much stress!
But it’s actually the opposite, a
warning to stay away. When
someone resists the obvious or
simple thing, that usually means
there's something complicated
going on that they’re unwilling
to face. Thus the dumping on
you.
Plus, presuming to untangle
someone else’s emotional knots
tends to get the helper caught up
as well — as you pretty much just
described.
It is hard to watch, yes, and it
is hard to know how to respond
when the person who doesn’t
keep in touch is sad and angryA father who never calls his sons
complains that they never call him
Carolyn
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