hope for me. Oy vey.” However, we can also just see
what we do—not only with honesty but also with a
sense of humor—and then keep going and not make
a whole identity out of it.
However, we’re still left with a question: when I
feel my worst—when I feel jealous or like I need to
get revenge—how do I give my best? The first step is
to dive into the experience of feeling bad. Make
friends with that feeling. The next step is to learn to
communicate with the people that you feel are caus-
ing your pain and misery—not to learn how to prove
them wrong and yourself right but how to communi-
cate from the heart. This is a lifetime’s journey, and
a profound one; it’s not something that happens
quickly or easily.
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