20 BODY LANGUAGE SECRETSfied. If so, the both of you can more easily decide if
you should continue, or go on your separate ways.
SUMMING IT UP
There are sexual manipulator-users and there are
game players. There are sincere people who are
afraid and nervous because they have been hurt be-
fore. There are people who don't do exactly the right
things because they are inexperienced or recently
back in the single world. There are genuine, good
people. Your job is to know who's who.
Here's a summary of the gestures liars use:
SPEAK NO EVIL
SEE NO EVIL
HEAR NO EVIL
FEEL NO EVIL
TOUCHES MOUTH
TOUCHES EYE
TOUCHES EAR
UNGROUNDED FEET
The next chapter, What Is Body Language? ex-
plains why we must all realize that you cannot not
communicate.You cannot not communicate.
UNKNOWN WISE PERSONWhat Is
Body Language?
For those who have difficulty believing in body
language, here's one way to look at it.
You are on vacation in Moscow. Upon returning
to your room, a wild-eyed, pistol wielding man con-
fronts you. He slams the door and snarls something
in Russian. As he cocks the gun and points it at your
head, would you reach for your English-Russian dic-
tionary?
To a gun toting mugger who speaks English, most
of us would use body language and words to neu-
tralize the threat. Body language? Yes! Raise your
hands. Look as powerless and non-threatening as
possible, In a pleading, helpless voice say, "Take my
money. Please don't shoot. I have two kids at home."
A LANGUAGE WE ALL SPEAK
The natural experts on body language are pets
and kids. My cat knows when I'm angry with her,
when I'm indifferent and when I'm ready to feed
her. A child knows when Mommy's happy and when
Daddy's lying.
Cats have never read a body language book, and
neither have kids, yet they know exactly what we