Body Language Secrets A Guide During Courtship & Dating

(^102) BODY LANGUAGE SECRETS
chance to do likewise, "You know Sally from col-
lege?" "You play volleyball?"
Only show your interest nonverbally so she can
respond nonverbally, that way no one's afraid of be-
ing rejected. Send her a few subtle signals of inter-
est as you keep your eyes open for her signals.
SAFE SUBJECTS ONLY
Your views on capital punishment have nothing
to do with the emotional and physical attraction of
courtship. Reveal yourself while talking about
movies, television shows, music, colleges, skiing,
back packing, cars, sport teams, beach weather,
where you've been recently, or are about to go.
FORBIDDEN TOPICS
Never discuss religion. Avoid emotion-producing
subjects: abortion, civil rights, welfare, sex, politics,
well, you get the idea.
Sex is verboten during early conversations. Don't
bring up the subject in any fashion. Don't respond in
kind to her sexual innuendoes or off color jokes.
Change the subject without making her feel as if she
committed a faux pas. Don't swear even if she says
"fuck" every few sentences. Some women do much of
this as a test to see if you're interested in her as a
sex toy or if you like her as a person. Pass the test.
MEN'S VIEW OF WOMEN AND PROFANITY
Most men are disoriented by a female who swears
a lot or they think she's an easy lay. As a woman,
reserve profanity for moments when you need to be
emphatic. Save vulgarities for crucial situations
when you want his undivided attention so you can
make a key point.
MEN MUST ALWAYS SAY
During each conversation, genuinely compliment
her once, and only once. Your compliment must be
genuine because most women are able to identify
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bullshit at 1000 yards.
, As stressed previously, comment on something
that others don't normally notice. Not her beautiful
hair. Not her beautiful eyes. Not her beautiful
complexion. Maybe her teeth. But, if you can notice
something that reveals her personal taste, she
knows you're different, and special. Her clothes,
shoes, jewelry and accessories are the ways she
makes a statement about herself.
WOMEN MUST ALWAYS SAY
During each conversation, compliment him on
something you genuinely like. However, if you are
not used to complimenting men, it is a skill that can
be readily learned. The key is to be observant. Look
him over, head to toe. Find something you sincerely
like. Then tell him that you do, in a matter of fact
manner.
MEN MUST NEVER SAY
Absolutely never say, "I'm never getting married
again." Never volunteer that you're dating other
women. Don't belittle her beliefs, values or tastes.
Keep your cynicism to yourself. Don't mention or
look at another female. Don't knock marriage and
children.
SECOND CONVERSATIONS
When you can weave it in without being obvious,
disclose yourself as single and available, "When I
got divorced, bla bla." Or, "My ex-girl friend used to,
bla bla."
Statements about yourself are best, followed by a
question. But ask questions carefully. Don't seem
nosy or trying to find out where she lives. You're a
suspected molester. She doesn't want you following
her home, at least not yet. More about this delicate
topic in a few paragraphs.
Talk about anything she's interested in. Keep the