Body Language Secrets A Guide During Courtship & Dating

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(^122) BODY LANGUAGE SECRETS
hope the information there helps each gender un-
derstand that the seemingly unnecessary, often
hurtful courtship behavior of the opposite sex is fre-
quently beyond the other person's control.
REINFORCED LEARNING
During the coming weeks you are going to become
extremely aware of your own body language as well
as everyone else's. Great! Why? That information
enables you to decide just exactly who's who and
what's what.
A couple of days after you finish the main part of
this book, read the Summary that follows the Ap-
pendix. Then in a few weeks, read it again. Why?
Because as time passes, your subconscious will inte-
grate much of what you will have been observing.
Then after you review the fundamentals, you will be
able to carry on courtship conversations and you
won't have to concentrate so hard on what is being
said without words. Eventually, you'll be able to re-
lax and let it happen, not make it happen.
Body Language Elaboration covers the details
and the finer points you need to discover who she is,
then to "tell" her who you are, without words.
This chapter has been added since the first edi-
tion was published. The questions and comments
are from men who are members of my discussion
group on the internet. Women will learn much about
men, and themselves, too.
Lengthy excerpts from OFFICE POLITICS: The
Woman's Guide To Beat The System immediately
follow the next chapter.
WARNING! Most women should skip the infor-
mation after that and proceed directly to the Appen-
dix and Summary. Why? Because those intervening
pages are written by a man for men. It is brutally
abrupt and frank. Forewarned is forearmed.
A woman cannot meet a man, any man,
without thinking, even if it's for half a
second, 'Perhaps this is The man.'
DORIS LESSING
Body Language
Elaboration
This chapter is from my newest book, Volume II -
Advanced Skills, How To Date Young Women For
Men Over 35. It's aimed at guys who have read the
first volume. My writing style in those books, and
this chapter, is brutally blunt. It may be offensive to
some. No offense is intended. It's just how we men
talk about women, when you are not around.
Women of all ages can learn a great deal about
how we men think, as well as the doubts and strug-
gle we have trying to meet you, then date you.
INTEREST AT A PARTY
Dear Don and Joanna, I especially liked, and
learned a lot from the seminar demonstration where
she was giving you signals from across the room
while conversing in a small group of people. That's
exactly the body language Debbie did at the pool
where I met her, but she was by herself so I knew
what to do!
In that demonstration, you showed us that once
mutual signs of interest were exchanged, you signal
the desire to talk with her alone by walking toward
the group while looking at her and then you veered
away and kept walking.

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