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signals of interest to her. Then, as I preach, let it
happen.
SPREADS HER LEGS
This is from 40 year old Matt. He just finished
reading Body Language Secrets.
My question is whether her posture and body
language said something that should have triggered
me to do something, like go over and talk with her.
As I walked back into the coffee section of the
bookstore, I noticed the sexually enticing posture of
a young wire-rimmed-glasses-wearing cutie. She
was absorbed in her reading as I came within eye-
shot. She was relaxed and reclined in her chair,
about to slide off. Her legs spread 45 degrees, her
tight jeans hugging her crotch with real evidence of
labial contours in the denim. Yummy!
Is this the same as explained in Body Language
Secrets when a woman faces you with the front of
her body. You said this is evolution in action offer-
ing a sexual display of breast and crotch. If not,
could she be nothing more than a tease? If not, does
this unladylike posture indicate sexual arousal?
Answer 1: No, spreading her legs is not even re-
motely similar to facing you with the front of her
body when she's sitting or standing. Spreading her
legs and slouching in the chair indicates nothing
more than being relaxed, comfortable, and confident
and thus, unaware of her unladylike posture.
Comment 1: Any female who wears her jeans so
tight that you can count her pubic hairs wants you
to look at her pubic hairs.
Answer 2: She could be nothing more than a
tease or she could be trolling for men by advertising
her figure. In my lifetime, 90 percent of women who
dress in sweaters, jeans or whatever that are tight-
enough-to-draw-a-second look, are teases, thus they
are of no interest to me. Or, they are so immature
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they don't realize how ridiculous they look, thus,
they are of no interest to me.
Answer 3: That posture does not indicate sexual
arousal. Being turned on is indicated by "high court-
ship readiness" postures and gestures as explained
and shown in the photos, of Body Language Secrets.
SHE'S MAKING EYES AT ME!
That's an old saying but I don't know what it
means. I've heard it described as a repeated, rapid
dilation of the eyes. Bill Taylor, Orange CA
Steels Sez: Dilation is a strong sign of attraction!
However, it is difficult for men to consciously notice,
except for expert poker players.
I remember the expression meaning, "He's flirt-
ing with his eyes." That is, giving strong, direct but
friendly eye contact. His pupils may be dilated, but
that's not the power. It is epitomized by Clark Gable
as Captain Rhett Butler. With his head slightly
tilted, he gave a manly glance with a pleased look on
his face plus slightly raising his eyebrows in ac-
knowledgment of the woman's beauty and presence.
Bill Sez: It also seems to be a learned and con-
trolled function.
Steele Sez: Dilation is involuntary, impossible to
control.
Bill Sez: I simply remember it as the warm and
tingly feeling I used to get when looking deeply into
a woman's eyes.
Steele Sez: That reaction is from becoming vul-
nerable to her vulnerability. Wonderful, but nothing
to do with dilation. Being seen and seeing is what
romantic mental health is all about. Knowing what
you know and seeing what you see is what self-con-
fidence is all about. Self-confidence, genuine self-
confidence is what makes you attractive, sensual
and sexual to women of all ages.
nancy kaufman
(Nancy Kaufman)
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